Committing to Be Together
Posted By Melissa Guzik, MA, CCC
How often do we get to sit back and enjoy time with our spouse without the many usual distractions of life? Now as a wife and mother who works, I know firsthand about the complexities of not having a lot of time to spend alone with my spouse, given all the demands upon me between maintaining my home, activities my children are involved in, family commitments, my career, and everything else that gets added to the list. A lot of couples put off spending time together until they have time. The problem is that we can’t wait until our children leave the house before enjoying each other’s company. Making this a priority is important to stay connected with our spouse and to nurture our relationship with them.
Here are a few ideas that can help you and your spouse in committing to spend time together:
- Date your spouse! When you were dating you set aside specific times to spend with them. This doesn’t have to stop now that you are married.
- Schedule time to have the dates with your spouse. It’s amazing how time disappears when we don’t put it on the calendar. Discussing what you will do together ahead of time can help a lot with the planning too.
- Be creative and have fun! Think of great places to go out together. This doesn’t have to be expensive either, like having a picnic together at a park, going for a walk in a beautiful area, or going out for coffee or ice cream. If you have children and don’t have access to babysitters, have dates at home while your children are sleeping. Just don’t let your dates be watching TV.
- Get to know each other better. One great way to do this is to commit to doing a marriage enrichment program. This can be in a form of a retreat, such as Marriage Encounter, or you can use a marriage enrichment book that goes through different areas of your marriage. Don’t forget that getting to know your spouse is a lifelong process!
- Take some time to pray with your spouse about what the two of you should do together. It’s amazing how God can inspire us and give us great ideas relating to our individual needs as a couple.
Once you and your spouse have decided how you will commit to being together, it is my hope that it becomes a regular part of your lives since it’s so rewarding to foster our friendship with our spouse. What better way to do this than by spending time alone together.
Melissa Guzik is the author of Know, Love and Serve: A Path to Marital Fulfillment